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Joy · July 19, 2020, 08:31:36 PM

A Good Sunday HELLO to ALL.

Copying Jenny's message from Sunday .........

MARILYNE, I think a lot of folks are extremely effected by this pandemic and what it has and is doing to our country. I sure know that I am. I feel sad for those that are alone and have few if anyone to communicate with. Like you, I have my hubby and can talk and occasionally see my family. I feel so melancholy and find myself with tears falling at the drop of a hat. I love music and listen all the time, but feel quite emotional. I can not help myself to worry about all the sadness that is going on. People are so unhappy and are so easily bothered about so many things. The destruction is something that I can hardly bare to see. I want so badly to be back in the times after 911 when there was so much patriotism. So much love for our country....every one pulling together

Jenny, I had to copy your message from today, (Sunday) as it really expresses my exact feelings, also. But, you worded it so well !! Thank you !!!

Joy

Vanilla-Jackie · July 20, 2020, 12:19:50 AM

Jenny...
...your mention of " tears falling at the drop of a hat "
Believe you me not one day since i lost my Richard ( 15 months now, ) dealing with my worsening MS, my mental state, have i not cried, and now the state of our world ( our C-Virus pandemic, ) is the final tipping point...

Jenny, have to ask, how is Michelle doing, i am assuming she is now in remission...

Denver · July 20, 2020, 01:42:18 AM

JOY, bless your heart. You are one of the individuals I was thinking about when I wrote my post. I have a few single friends that are also in my thoughts. These are very sad times and we all just have to do our best to get through this. I find too many of my people I communicate with want to just point a finger and blame everyone else for the situation we are in. There is far too much of that and it sure is not going to change anything. Bless us all that can take care of ourselves and do what we can to try to make things better for everyone. A special HUG to you.

JACKIE, I totally understand the stressful state you have been in since the passing of Richard. Your health issues and the remoteness of your home along with the concerns for our world would be nearly enough to drive anyone over the edge. I think you have done remarkable for the life that you have been dealt. I hope you can make a decision and have it work out for you so you can try to improve at least your living conditions. HUGS to you as well.

Michele is not exactly what we would like t9 call in remission, but I ho0e soon that this might be a possibility. This coming Wednesday is her final chemo treatment and she wants it to be her LAST....at least the last of these kind. Dr, Dave says she will be on some form of chemo treatments for the rest of her life. I pray that the6 can be some form that will be kinder to her system and work to keep the cancer away🙏🙏🙏🙏

Jenny

MarsGal · July 20, 2020, 06:15:17 AM

Really, really getting tired of this hot weather. I just checked the temp this morning. 82^oF. It is just barely 6am EST.

No joy for seeing the comet last night or this morning. From here we supposedly should have been able to see it a few hours after dark. Of course it was cloudy. It is always cloudy when some interesting sky event is going on. I tried the Spring Creek webcam, but there were low clouds and, maybe the hills (foothills?) may now be in the way. The YouTube snapshot for the site also showed it over even farther than I expected. I don't know when that site snapshot was updated, so I may have missed it altogether. I didn't turn the TV on until around 4:45am.

I need to remember to call my sister in Wilmington, NC today. BIL has been having some health issues. He has Ischemic Angina and they found some lesions on his lungs and scheduled a CT scan. Barb's knee surgery is coming up soon if not already done. Got to check on that too.

Shan is about to get his nails trimmed again. He is getting extra bitty and is jumping the other two cats. Cutting his nails seems to curtail some of that aggressive activity.

so_P_bubble · July 20, 2020, 07:16:56 AM

RAMMEL!!!! Please!!!
We are all united here and we are not going to allow you to leave. You CANNOT do that!
Forget about some discussions that you don't like, but stay where you are wanted. And please, continue to be active in games...

What about telling us how you are, how you spend the time when most must stay home now? Are you building a new computer?

The sayings list is complete now for sure. What about starting one with quotes from books or celebrities? That could be interesting.

Vanilla-Jackie · July 20, 2020, 10:18:43 AM

What with everything else i am dealing with at the moment, this is all i need, just this minute taken a phone call from the GP's reception office informing me my latest vampire blood taking is showing a slight drop in the kidney function...told GP is not too bothered but needs to keep a check on me, told another blood test will be taken in a months time, told her, i am in the throws of a possible move, ( thinking bad timing ) could be as soon as 2 & a half - 3 weeks, receptionist asked if permanent, i said i hope so, yes...What with PP-MS, the cellulitis i had, although seems to have cleared, apart from the still swollen balloon leg which water tablets are doing absolutely nothing, now i might have the starting of kidney disease, or whatever...I have enough on my plate to be going on with without adding more worry..As my late father often said to me..." it never rains but it pours, girl, " how true...

Think i'll take myself off the water pills, the diuretics, ( GP had doubled the strength ) i was obviously ok before i was put on them for my cellulitis leg swelling...although when i mentioned this to reception, her notes are not asking me to do this, just GP to monitor me in a months time...Oh the joys of bad health..who remembers those days when we didn't have a medical care in the world...This is getting like the days when i remember catching buses...we waited a long time for our bus, then when it came along, two or three came along behind it.."

Marilyne · July 20, 2020, 11:50:14 AM

Jackie - so glad to see that your leg is back to normal, so that particular problem is no longer at the top of your worries. I really like your "waiting for the bus" analogy! So true for all of us as we grow older. The worrisome health problems seem to come in bunches of two or more. This is true for AJ, as well as for me. Nothing we can do, except to address the situation as it appears.

Jenny - I also liked your recent post. You described my feelings, and those of most of us older Americans. When this Pandemic is finally over, and the protests and political division settles down, things will never be the same as they were before. A whole new era will begin. I just hope it turns out to be good for the Country, and that our young family members will be okay.

Vanilla-Jackie · July 20, 2020, 12:25:02 PM

Marilyne...
...fresh medical issues are bad timing if we are in-between new GP changeovers

Edited: found it " high Furosemide dosage ( water tablets - Diuretics ) may harm kidneys. "

Beverly · July 20, 2020, 07:08:26 PM

I don't know what happened, but I just lost my whole message!

I'm not going to try to re-create it tonight. Hope everyone has a good night. See you tomorrow!

Shirley · July 20, 2020, 09:13:42 PM

I don't talk a lot in here, so mouthy over in the Soda Shoppe & Photos, I am ashamed for saying so much about MY life. Besides, sometimes I get off track and give an opinion that might sound a little political (I really do try to muzzle myself). So, if I've said anything to offend you, Rick, or anyone else, I really do apologize. I'm pleading along with the rest, for you not to leave. I miss the teasing from the guys that have gone on, growing up with 3 older brothers it was part of my life, and they are all gone now.

Life is a tad frantic around here, one grand tested positive for the virus (she & another grand exposed to someone at work... those "necessary" jobs). The grandson hasn't had his test yet, but just today the one had a test for blood clots in her legs and that showed up positive so she's been put on blood thinners. Naturally we are concerned about her but also about members of the family that came in contact with her. All a guessing game, but hers is real. I had not been reading a lot about the various symptoms but others have, including the grand. This is not imaginary (she has been called "the drama queen")...

I have not been really depressed so far, keep reminding everyone that we were terrified when polio had no cure or didn't know how it was spread. Back before I was born my 3 brothers had scarlet fever and Dad was quarantined in another part of the house with diphtheria. How would you have liked to be my Mom in that situation. Actually, one of the twins next door had polio and who knew how only ONE caught it? He was maybe 6 at the time.

My mother never let us dwell on problems, would sing around the house in the worst of times. She never said, but I am pretty sure the 9 months my oldest brother spent in a German POW camp was the hardest on her because SHE wasn't there to take care of him. She was a rock, great roll model. I try my best to cheer my family up through all these trials. Some days it is hard to find anything to be cheerful about, but if we look hard enough, Pollyanna says there is something good in every event. If you are really down, watch that movie again, a little syrupy but good feeling when over.

So here we are, nary a one of us are without problems but always "someone" with worse ones. One of my classmates was innocently eating in a Wendy's in MO last week when a truck plowed through the window killing his wife and he is in a hospital in another town with crushed ribs, deflated lungs, critical. Besides his pain, he has to deal with not having a wife to go home to or even able to have the funeral she deserved. They were both very active in the community but friends are almost helpless to console him.

I told my daughter to tell her daughter to let me know if she needs food delivered. She has many food allergies so a challenge to cook for. She lives in an apartment on the other side of town (closer to work), with her dog. She does have a lot of friends but not sure if any will be "caregivers". Time will tell.

End of pep talk. Hugs to all, you all are in my thoughts as I say prayers before going to sleep. Shirley

Beverly · July 20, 2020, 09:51:06 PM

Thanks for the pep talk, Shirley. I needed that!

Marilyne · July 20, 2020, 10:19:45 PM

Shirley - You're the first person here in S&F, to have a family member test positive for Coronavirus! I certainly do hope that your granddaughter has a mild case, and that your daughter, your grandson and other family members don't catch it from her.

in spite of the high number of cases here in California, only one person I know has tested positive. Actually I don't know her, but she is a good friend and neighbor of my oldest daughter. She's in the hospital on a ventilator, but I heard today, that she is doing very well, and may be able to breathe by herself tomorrow.

Beverly - Nice to see you after so long. Come back, and tell us how things are going in your part of Florida? I hope that there are no cases of the virus at The Villages?

Shirley · July 20, 2020, 11:23:15 PM

Thanks, Beverly & Marilyne, every time I get on that soapbox I panic and come back to see if I went overboard. I kinda did this time, didn't mean it to sound like each of us don't have really critical & special problems to deal with, we do, and some more than others. This is the place to talk about our problems and hope everyone understands, some things we don't tell family or friends that we see all the time.

When I was very little I thought it was my job to make people happy, especially my parents. When I was 6 and WWII started I considered that my main job in life, to make Mom & Dad smile. Maybe that's why I love critters, they are happy just hanging around and being fed. Like you all, up until now I haven't known anyone with the virus and no clue how it will affect my gr-daughter. For sure we will do whatever needs to be done, and I'm on board as the one with most time to spare.

Wed I go back for the results of the Echo last Wed. Don't expect it will be good, I've already refused replacing that valve again one time, so will be interesting to see how much worse it is. Here it is past 10:00, bedtime and I haven't eaten yet! I baked a salmon & froze packets so will put a chunk of that salmon in a little skillet with a lot of real butter & heat. Good protein & yummy. I put a lot of herbs when baking so doesn't have a "fishy" smell.

That's all, folks.... sorry to go on & on. Really is hard to keep short when the mind is whirling & fingers can type as fast. Long, long ago training.

Vanilla-Jackie · July 21, 2020, 01:05:55 AM

By the sound of it reading others posts, we have all had the best of our lives, and thank God for the lives we have had..our nearest and dearest, family, family pets, our good health, our forever family happy home...all in our past now, ( the been there, done that, never to be repeated again,) apart from the good and happy memories we still have, and a thank heavens we still have our memories, many dont even have the pleasure of remembering those, re, Alzheimer - Dementia, although some memories supposedly do come flooding back..Although for me, i keep crying out for the life i once had, that i will never repeat again, all over with, illnesses, death, moving home etc etc...the best and happiest part of our life is all over with, never to be seen nor experienced ever again...as the song goes..." Thanks For The Memory, " and a thank you to God for lending us our piece of happiness while it lasted, lending us our healthy body, our family of the pets and humans, our nearest loved ones, that were lent to us, that came into our lives, just at the right time...yes thank you God as we find ourselves to be the only one now left standing.....

As they say, " nothing good lasts forever " how true, and " you dont appreciate what you have got, until you lose it " how true, and " never take anything for granted " in this world, as it can be taken away from you as quick as it came.." here one minute, gone the next, " how true..

Shirley · July 21, 2020, 11:25:47 AM

Jackie, "truer words were never spoken" (where did that saying come from?) I do agree that Alzheimer's is the worst of all as I have watched my sister-in-law cower in fear when nothing was familiar. I do think it broke my brother's heart and in his worry and stress trying to console her, his own body was attacked by other diseases. I do hope when you move you will be near a hospital where you can visit with children or patients so you can cheer them up. I'm a firm believer that given the chance to make someone else smile we benefit much more ourselves. God has a reason for keeping us around, we just have to figure what it is. On the other hand, with your love of dogs, maybe it is your calling to go "love" the ones waiting for forever homes. Somebody needs us, even if just an example of how to live with whatever health problems we have. I tell my kids that, "I'm teaching them how to grow old, maybe not gracefully, but enjoying life!"

Busy day ahead & I have not had breakfast yet. This may be a 2 egg day, scrambled with little slivers of bacon mixed in. Haven't done a thing & worked up an appetite! I'm a hugger so hugs all around!

FlaJean · July 21, 2020, 11:28:17 AM

Shirley, so sorry to hear about your Granddaughter. Sure hope all goes well with her. We are being very careful---wearing our masks and gloves when we go to the store.

We drove to Panama City yesterday to get the car serviced. We had put it off longer than we should have. But we were glad to notice that all the employees at the Toyota dealer were wearing masks and so were most of the customers. Maybe at long last the need for masking is getting through.

Today is bright and sunny. Larry was out early watering the grass and flowers. The Vincas are just about taking over the flower bed. Can't even see the dwarf azaleas and rhododendrons. They don't like a lot of sun anyway.

It is so good to read everyone's post. Trying to be positive and looking on the bright side in a bleak period.

Marilyne · July 21, 2020, 12:46:38 PM

Jackie - I read your message first thing this morning, and agree wholeheartedly with your thoughts. The best is way behind us. We can reflect back at the good times with warm nostalgic feelings . . . but also the times where we made a poor decision, that didn't turn out like we thought they would.

I've noticed since I've grown old, that there are two distinct "camps", when it comes to answering this question:
If you had your adult life to live over again, would you want to, or are you satisfied with yourself, the choices you made, and the way things turned out, and you wouldn't want to do it over?

I would definitely live it over again if I had the chance. So many things I would do differently. I realize that at the time, you think you're making the right decisions/choices, but now that you can look back at your whole life, you can clearly see your mistakes. I believe they that call that feeling, "The road not taken". (Thank you Robert Frost!)

About five years ago I was talking with my dear cousin, who was like a sister to me. We were very close, in spite of being totally different in personality and temperament. I asked her that question, about having her life to live over, etc. She said no, that she was perfectly happy the way everything had turned out. I was surprised and said, "Don't you have any regrets"? She thought for a second and said, "No, no regrets at all". She felt that she had lived an ideal life, that was just perfect for her. So I wonder, are some people more evolved than others?? More accepting, more mature? Or does it depend on our individual personality traits, that we are born with?

Well, I will spare you all any more of my philosophical thoughts! They don't make much sense I'm afraid. I think this coronavirus plague, has caused me to sit and recall many different things on my life, and everyone who has been a part of it. What I need to work on, is forgiving myself for things I think I did wrong.

Vanilla-Jackie · July 21, 2020, 01:24:10 PM

Marilyne...
... i can jump in with one regret that i would now rectify without a doubt, and that is think twice before i open my mouth and say something nasty or hurtful, hurting his feelings terribly to my Richard that now he is dead, without any warning on that fateful morning that these hurtful and nasty things i said to him go to his grave, and i cant take these hurtful to him words back, as its too late now, so all i do is keep apologising to him from the bottom of my heart telling him i didn't mean it and just hope and pray that he hears me, or that God passes this on to him...So if there is one lesson i have learnt and to pass on to everyone is...be careful of what you say, as if that person suddenly passes, you cant take back what has been said, nor, you cant tell them you are sorry and you didn't mean it...too late for that...and oh the guilt it leaves you with..I am also angry with myself of how much i hurt him with the hurtful thing i said to him, and what i had led him to believe...i am left with such torment..

Shirley...
... i never know the difference between alzheimers and dementia but i cant imagine anything worse for the partner- hubby or wife, who the other partner doesn't recognise their partner any more...it must feel like there whole life together never existed and yet it very much did...just that one of them cant remember they had a past with a hubby-wife, children, almost as if it is wiped out, which could be anything from 20 to 60 years of marriage, and raising their family....

Shirley, quoting your: " Alzheimer's is the worst of all."... yes, Alzheimer-Dementia and dont forget Multiple Sclerosis and Parkinson's Disease..I can vouch for that, I am living proof of that living with my PP-MS deteriorating body, attacking my central nervous system, MS controls me, i cant control MS, as what goes on inside the MS body is hidden to the outside world, and only experienced by the person who is living it............

CallieOK · July 21, 2020, 02:58:44 PM

Good Afternoon,

Noticing the direction this forum seems to be taking - I'm reminded of a friend to whom I voiced frustrations (this was years ago) about some personal issues I was having . After I thanked her for sympathizing and apologized for unloading on her, she said, "You just needed someone to "awfulize" with you".

I certainly do not deny or want to ignore the very real and very problematic health and emotional issues so many are dealing with. I consider myself a Realist rather than an Optimist or a Pessimist. So I tend to accept the way things are (sometimes grudgingly!) and try to concentrate on things I CAN do rather than things I can no longer do or sighing over "the ways things used to be". Then I try to find something positive or funny (IMO, anyway ) or that might be at least mildly interesting to talk about.

Today's offering is the fun I had while eating lunch watching two hummingbirds play hide and seek in the holly bush next to the feeder. One would feed and then perch in the holly. The other one would fly in and circle the holly, peering in to see if anyone was there. Suddenly ZOOM - here comes #1 and chases #2 away. Pretty soon - #2 would sneak in and the process would repeat. There's room for four birds to feed at the same time but do you think they'll share?? Of course not!!

Off to check the ship cams and then do some desk work. August is sneaking up on me and there are several birthdays and anniversaries for which I need to find on-line gift cards.

Hmmm...can't find the Hugs emojis (is that the term?) in "More". Guess the virus restrictions are reaching farther than we thought.

, Everyfriend

FlaJean · July 21, 2020, 03:10:14 PM

The only way I would want to live my life over would be if I could take my present knowledge and wisdom with me.

angelface555 · July 21, 2020, 03:31:19 PM

Good late morning from Alaska, where we are in our sixth week of rain, lightning, and T-storms. We are also in my building at the total lockdown procedures initiated in March. Masks are required in all public areas, with no children and no visitors except for essential workers. All offices and libraries, common rooms and open kitchens have been closed since March.

Maintenance is no longer 24/7 but available for emergencies and on Monday's for public areas cleaning. We have been reminded after two summary evictions, that security remains at 24/7 and that all public areas are on camera. None of the 227 over 62, disabled residents in 196 apartments and studios have had the virus, knock on wood, because of the building lockdown.

Outside, in town, cases are doubling and tripling. If you are in a grocery, over half, still go maskless. This display is perhaps our evolution at work.

In town, we have no taxis, bus service, or VanTran or Senior Rides. If you don't know someone with a car, you're stuck for groceries, outside bank lines, etc.

I read an article today about the increased amounts of anxiety during this uncertain time.

Asking yourself to back up your own conclusion can be one way to assess whether your fear is based in fact or whether you may be reading into more than is actually there.

When you begin to berate yourself, "My boss thinks I did a shitty job on that project.
"Who told you that?

My best friend hasn't called me in a week; she's mad at me.
Who told you that?

I'm a terrible parent/sibling/partner/friend.
Who told you that?

I'm not strong enough or good enough or talented enough or experienced enough.
Who told you that?"

"Asking yourself for a source of the information forces you to do a little internal fact-checking on your own anxiety. It prompts you to evaluate how you've reached a certain conclusion and whether, perhaps, you're overreacting or jumping to conclusions.
Yeah, maybe your boss usually tells you how you've done a great job at the end of a long project and this time, they didn't. There are any number of potential reasons that are not about how you did a shitty job—they're busy, they're distracted, they figure you know you did a great job because you always do a great job!

Vanilla-Jackie · July 21, 2020, 03:36:13 PM

Callie...
... your mention of " the things you can do, " believe you me, i have pushed my MS body over its limits these past few weeks...and i have been doing the ( physically and mentally ) impossible all by myself when my MS body is collapsing underneath me...Even my newfound female Christian friend - helper, helping me to achieve my goal, marvelled over my achievements and said, " you are doing well " or," you have done well, " still got a whole lot to get organised both this end and at the other end...Not looking forwards to my phone bill....My body and brain has been, is, on overload, or is that overdrive, the rewards will pay off in the end...My motto is " do what you can, when you can and how you can." In other words, do the impossible, and " look after number one, " because at the end of the day, no one else will..plus another lesson my late father taught me was " it is survival of the fittest. " Well our C - Virus pandemic is certainly proving that...

angelface555 · July 21, 2020, 04:27:34 PM

Callie, I see myself as a pragmatic pessimist which seems to work for me.

Marilyne · July 21, 2020, 04:37:43 PM

Patricia - Good to see you posting here again! Your Covid situation in Fairbanks, sounds about like the rest of the country.

Many, many people who absolutely will not follow the common sense rules to stay healthy and protect others at the same time. They balk at something as simple as a mask.
Yes, people do tend to be very hard on themselves when it comes to not being good enough, smart enough, etc., and often expect the worst possible outcome. Telling them to do some "internal fact checking" on their anxiety would probably not work, because they don't know how to go about it. Most of the things that I've been anxious about, have been out of my control anyway.

Jackie - It sounds like your new friend is a very positive person, the way she is encouraging you. I can see that she has faith in you, and believes that you will be able to do what needs to be done to keep moving forward.

Jean - I agree with you, that there would be no point in living our life over again, unless you retained your knowledge from the previous life. I have all sorts of hopeful theories on that one, but I will refrain from speculating on the possibilities. (No, I'm not a fan of Shirley Maclain!)

Callie - you have a great attitude! Being a realist is a good thing, IMO. I think I am, to a large extent, but I have a strong tendency to look at the dark side of any situation.

Vanilla-Jackie · July 21, 2020, 05:11:06 PM

Marilyne...
... i couldn't have a better friend, for the short time since we met,- i was given her name and contact number, she has been a pure Godsend, she has done more for me than anyone else..she became a proud grandmother yesterday, i have seen a photo of the little'n ( a boy ) who arrived a tad later than expected, a lengthy labour...Marilyne she is a Christian and will often say a prayer for me, as i sent a prayer to her for the newborn...Strange thing i found out yesterday was both myself and my friend had both given birth to heavy babies, she beat me by 1.oz at one being 8.lbs.14 oz...mine was 8.lbs.13 oz...almost 9 lb babies..

Beverly · July 21, 2020, 09:25:12 PM

Very interesting reading here tonight! If I could live my life over, would I do it differently? I do have a few regrets but in what is really important I wouldn't change a thing. I married young, (almost 19), and he's still the love of my life. (Not that there weren't some ups and downs along the way!) Life doesn't come with a handbook and neither do children. We do the best we know how at the time and hope it all turns out okay.

Shirley - I hope your granddaughter recovers soon from this virus and that the rest of the family is spared. Have you had any more news? My daughter, Lauri, is an essential worker (Crisis Center in a hospital) and I do worry about her. Good luck with your Echo tomorrow.

Jackie - I believe that our loved ones who've passed somehow know what we are feeling. I'm sure Richard wouldn't want you to grieve over things you said or did. The most important thing is to forgive yourself. Having your new friend to talk to is worth the high phone bill!

Callie - I consider myself a realist on the pessimistic side! My husband is the eternal optimist so we balance each other out.

Marilyne - I enjoyed reading your "philosophical thoughts". With all this isolation from the rest of the world we have plenty of time for "deep thinking".

Patricia - Glad to see you posting again. I can't imagine being in total lockdown since March. Do you have grocery delivery, etc.?

Jean - I agree with you regarding the wisdom and knowledge we have now. "Older and Wiser". But think of what we might have missed!

Shirley · July 21, 2020, 11:26:11 PM

Okay, I wouldn't want to live life over, maybe another 20-30 years if in decent health. I'm happy with life today, anything changed in the past and today wouldn't be the same so I won't gamble with what might have been.

Every day along the way I made the best choice for what facts I had that day. I think I really am a realist, no illusions about humans. Maybe more leery of most so not surprised when I'm disappointed in someone's less than honorable deeds. On the other hand I have always known that tomorrow won't be like today so accept what it is and find joy any way possible. We can't have yesterday, we can't undo mistakes, but we can try to make today and even tomorrow happy for ourselves and those around us.

Being happy/satisfied with life is almost an obsession with me. I've watched so many family & friends be depressed when life dealt a low blow, that's normal. But we have to accept what happens, plot & plan how to make something good out of it and go on to the satisfaction that "we're okay" after all.

When I think back how my parents suffered at the thought of their first born being tortured, starved or killed in that POW camp, I'm not sure how I could have stayed happy in that situation. I didn't know about the conditions, the reality at the time. I knew it was bad and knew my parents were sad, but not until you've had kids do you start to understand, right?

Mary Ann was a person that accepted life "straight on". I don't remember her ever regretting anything about her life or wishing she could change things. Even when Norm had to go into a care home, she accepted the fact. So I wish for all the peace that comes with being satisfied with today. Hugs to all.

Denver · July 22, 2020, 12:16:42 AM

Good evening.

Busy day here.....laundry and shopping. A storm moved in and the heat dissipated and we now have the doors and windows open and are enjoying the nice fresh air.

BEVERLY, it is always so disappointing when we loose a post we have been working on. Just good to see you here.

JEAN, I have to say that I smiled as I read that you and Larry were in Panama City yesterday. We have not been there since the hurricane hit and did all the terrible destruction. Bobs sister and several relatives still live there. Not sure when we will be there again. Good to read that people were wearing masks and doing their best to social distance. I think we all would want to have our present
knowledge and wisdom that we have today if we were able to go back and live our adulthood over again.

Today our governor announced that last call for drinks at a bar will be at 10 PM not the current hour of 2 AM. OF COURSE there are many up in arms over this decision. He did not want to close bars or restaurants that serve alcohol to be shut down completely. The numbers are rising in many of the counties that he had loosened some of the restrictions on, so there is a threat of stay at home orders again.

SHIRLEY, I wish you the best on the results of your echo. I hope it is not much different than it was on the last check🙏 The saying, "truer words were never spoken" is one of my very often used statements!

JACKIE, my heart is heavy for you with the burden you carry, but know that God forgives us for things we are not proud of and helps us to move on. You have to trust that Richard does know that you are sorry and he too has forgiven you. I hope we will hear soon of your plans for the future. 🙏

Pleasant dreams to all.

Jenny

Vanilla-Jackie · July 22, 2020, 12:18:23 AM

Not an easy question to answer, " would we live our life over " as i was engaged twice and often wonder how my life would have panned out if i had married the first one i was engaged to, i know he would have been a good hubby, was the perfect man at 23 me being 19 when we met, a 3 & a half year together dating, and would have been a good father to my then very young illegitimate daughter ( not his, ) and we would have had a dog - dogs, as i remember when his family dog passed how upset he was the day he came over to me but, if i had married him, i would not have had the 20 year life i had had with my Richard who came into my life 26 years later..Of course i do often wonder how my life would have panned out if i had married number one, well i would never have had my life, my 20 year future with engagement number two...

We are often given paths in our life or forks as i call them, and it is up to us which path, fork, or road, we have chosen to take, leaving us wondering how our life would have panned out if we had taken the other road, path, or fork...Yes number one engagement - marriage we would have had dogs, but not the same loves of my life dogs i - we had with engagement to man number two..I do reflect back that my life with either of these two men would have been a good life, a good choice, and number one came into my life by God just at the right time being my state of my childhood home life of which i shall never delve up, ( i have long forgiven, although at age 69, i can never forget..)

Vanilla-Jackie · July 22, 2020, 06:11:03 AM

I would happily live my life over again ( 2001 - 2016 ) now i know what i know now, only this time i will do things differently, more so not wasting one precious day of our life with so many wasted weekends - Bank Holidays of " doing nothing, going nowhere, " and one day either you, or me, or both of us wont be here to enjoy them, as i kept moaning to Richard that WE were doing... Well here we are, Richard is no longer here...

Quoting: " another weekend wasted, of doing nothing, going nowhere.." i had given up the times i had said that to him....Now i would give anything to have those wasted weekends - Bank Holidays back again...Oh yes, sadly, we cant put back the clocks...

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