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Marilyne · April 11, 2019, 02:00:43 PM

Dear Jackie - I just read your message, and I have tears my eyes as I write this. I feel so very bad for you, and wish I could be there to help you. I hope you have somebody in your neighborhood, or friends from your MS group, who can come and sit with you and maybe stay with you until the shock has lessened? All of us here in B&T will be thinking about you. Love and prayers to you at this difficult time.

Denver · April 11, 2019, 02:56:01 PM

I am shocked to read your post, JACKIE.

IF ONLY someone could be there to stay with you...

Please know that we are here for you in any way possible.

Jenny

Amy · April 11, 2019, 03:00:44 PM

Jackie, I am sorry to read about the passing of your husband. I know this is hard on those left behind but a blessing that Richard didn't suffer. Condolences to you and your family.

FlaJean · April 11, 2019, 03:10:34 PM

Jackie, what a shock. I can only say how sorry I am. Lots of love and prayers coming your way.

angelface555 · April 11, 2019, 03:19:11 PM

Jackie, I am so sorry and can only agree with what has already been said. I do hope you will have folks available to be with you and to help and advise you.

Shirley · April 11, 2019, 03:29:58 PM

Jackie, I am so sorry and can feel your shock. It is good that Richard didn't suffer but so difficult for you that you did not have time to make any plans. I hope you have someone that will see you have transportation to places you must go to handle all the paper work involved and that will help with the many details having everything switched to your name. I am still having a problem with one company because instead of rolling everything in MY name, I can't make changes that the "primary" holder needs to do. I did ask the one lady, "just who did they think was paying the bills the last 6+ years?" I had taken a certified death certificate to their office and thought it was taken care of until..... I tried to do something only the primary could get in to. Shocking, spent days & days trying to get it fixed but gave up and will fight that battle another time. Wishing you hugs, and prayers and sincere sympathy. Shirley

Vanilla-Jackie · April 11, 2019, 03:34:28 PM

8.50pm, I feel so lonely, frightened, scared and trapped now everyone has gone and I am by myself...I keep thinking he is still here somewhere in the home, just so empty, I haven't stopped crying or walking around in circles with no place to go in the home all day... Why did he have to go and leave me?
Nothing seemed out of the ordinary this morning, he dropped Toby off at the groomers, came home, sat in his arm chair, the phone rang, I was here on the computer, and I was wondering why he never answered it as the phone was right behind him..the phone stopped ringing, I went in and shouted at him, didn't you here the phone, at first I thought he was sleeping but knew he would have heard the phone, then I realised he wasn't breathing, his eyes and mouth was open...I kept shaking him to wake up, wake up, then called to neighbours hysterically that I needed help...Before long their were neighbours, at least eight ambulance medics all working on him after they got him on the floor for what seemed like hours, I knew he was dead but thought for that moment that they might get him back to life...Then the police and ambulance people sat down with me, took signed statements, the coroners were summoned to take his body away...
When later I phoned the groomers I had to know whether she had noticed anything unusual about him, she told me no, he had even made a fuss of her dog when he came inside...This has to be a nightmare and find him in his bed as usual in the morning. Even now I am walking around calling his name and shouting out " where are you Richard.."... I am in a total mess and haven't stopped crying all day...even my MS has been bad...

Denver · April 11, 2019, 04:07:28 PM

I just feel so bad for you, JACKIE. I know the shock you have to be in is awful and of course you do not know what to do and you wish it were just a terrible nightmare and you will wake up and it will not be so. I have worried so about how you were going to go pick up Toby....hoping you even knew exactly where the groomer is located. I know Toby is going to be lost without his Richard. I know you love him so, and I hope he can and WILL give you so comfort.

I believe I am the only person here in our group that met Jackie and Richard in person. Just this morning I was going through some photos and found one of us all having coffee together in London a few years back. It seems no time ago and yet, I believe it was 7 years ago.

My only nieces Birthday is today, and I was looking for pictures of her to share with our family. She passed in 2002, the same year as my dear mother. She was 31 and passed from complications associated with type 1 diabetes. Bless her heart, she suffered a lot in her year and spent way too many periods of time in a hospital due to her situation. She had a terrible car wreck due to a diabetic coma, and towards the end even had to deal with a amputated leg.

We had quite the snow storm here yesterday. It was not as bad as they thought it might be but it was bad enough. The news always has to sensationalize things so much....I know we made the national news, but they made it sound much worse than it was. I do think they made some prett6 good decisions to cancel some flights out at the airport so people would not get stranded like they did last month in our BOMB CYCLONE! They tried to make is think it was going to be worse than that one, but it was not. Mind you the mid west is suffering through so bad stuff as the storm continues east.

I hope you all are having a peaceful day. ENJOY your company LARRY and the meal she is providing.

Jenny

Mary Ann · April 11, 2019, 04:15:12 PM

Thinking of Jackie - we are so helpless being 3000 miles (?) away. Just know we are thinking of you, Jackie, and praying for you. It's easy to say, but take things slowly and accept help.

Mary Ann

Joy · April 11, 2019, 05:20:26 PM

Jackie, I can imagine how upset you are after realizing what is happening.

But, please wait until you have had time to settle down and accept that fact that Richard is gone, and don't sign anything or make any quick decisions. You have to take your time and take one day at a time. I am sure you have millions of thoughts going through your head right now. But, you have to have faith that everything will work out. Just going to take some time for that to happen. Like MaryAnn told you, I so wish some of us were a lot closer to you and could help. But, my thoughts and prayers are with you.

I do hope that you have someone that can help advise you on some decisions you will have to make.

Joy

Vanilla-Jackie · April 11, 2019, 06:08:19 PM

He's at peace, that's more than what I am...I am still walking around talking to him, and wanting to know where he is..and crying..

MarsGal · April 11, 2019, 06:29:48 PM

I was out most of the day and almost didn't bother to get on my computer this evening.

What a shock! Jackie, I can only echo what all the others have posted. My sincere condolences.

Shirley, if that company is holding an account that is important to you, this is where a letter from a lawyer may come in handy. I never heard of a company not accepting a death certificate.

George's Endoscopy went well. The Dr. found no changes from the last one. Good news. Afterwards we ate at Denny's and then I took him up to WalMart before taking him home.

Vanilla-Jackie · April 11, 2019, 08:19:44 PM

Turned 1.am, just cant take myself to bed..this just seems so unreal...I am dreading waking up, getting up in the morning..

CallieOK · April 11, 2019, 08:54:15 PM

Jackie, I, too , have been out and about all day and am just now coming in. (7:45 p.m. CDT).

I am tearfully saddened at your news. My husband also died unexpectedly without warning.
]I think only those who experience the sudden unexpected loss of a spouse can fully understand the shock and unreality that sets in.

My heart aches for you and I pray God gives you the courage and strength you need to get through the difficult days ahead.

Gentle hugs and loving thoughts winging across the ocean to you.

wjoan · April 11, 2019, 09:27:52 PM

Mary Ann, sorry did not see anything related to your post.

angelface555 · April 11, 2019, 09:54:26 PM

Quote from: angelface555 on March 31, 2019, 07:09:11 PM Quote from Patricia
From March 31st; a video showing all 13 1000 ft. ships;

Duluth Cam is now on YouTube, re American Century, 03-26-2019 through several cams.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scxdbgjDZEc

And from 2013, (1968), Arthur M. Anderson departure.

And; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ilfwWdbtbD8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9rkoBtAmKk

And, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ilfwWdbtbD8 All 13 1000 ft. Ships of the Great Lakes.

https://harborlookout.com/ships#0

http://www.duluthharborcam.com/p/canal-park-cams.html

Sato, the above link is to the schedule of the ship's arrival and departure. The time given is CST, which I believe is 12 hours from you.

Also, the post just ahead of mine from Angelface has several links to videos. I have one more link to post, but I want to post this first or I will lose everything.

The second link is to the Duluth Canal itself and from there you can follow the ships to the Harbor.

Patricia, you don't expect me to remember a post from a week ago, do you? Ha!

Mary Ann

Mary Ann · April 11, 2019, 10:01:51 PM

Joan, the post from Patricia (Angelface) has a lot of ship links. It's the post just before this one of mine. It is 10 pm here and I am going to bed. See if Patricia's links give you what you want and if not, let me know and I'll try to fill you in.

Thanks, Patricia, for copying all of those links.

Mary Ann

wjoan · April 11, 2019, 10:13:28 PM

Thanks. The one with ships coming in and out I want but nee the NON YOU TYBE address. Will have my son get it for me tomorrow. Thanks again

Shirley · April 11, 2019, 11:40:46 PM

Jackie, one thing that helped me a lot was old LaurenKat needed me because she missed Cas so much. I'm sure your Toby will need your loving arms and voice, as much as you can spend time with him. When Cas died I called my sons here in town before I called 911, the police, emergency crew & all were here until the funeral home people came to take his body. My sons stayed in the room with their father as well as 2 policemen. Gave me the uneasy feeling that police questioned his death, made me uncomfortable. I'm saying this because any time a person dies at home that is the rule, I was told. In Cas' case his cardio & family doctors immediately offered to sign the death certificate without autopsy. I do hope all you deal with will be considerate. My best friend found her husband almost exactly like you did, he had many issues with his back and knees, not life threatening. For sure, life changes. We have to work at finding a different happiness, enjoy what we do have. God Bless.

Vanilla-Jackie · April 12, 2019, 01:45:35 AM

I'm not going to survive this, I have not only dropped 4.lbs of weight overnight but only got 3 hours of sleep, did not drop off till around 3.30am..I am sitting opposite Richards bedroom with wide open door, I haven't turned round yet..

so_P_bubble · April 12, 2019, 02:03:49 AM

Vanilla - thinking of you, sending you thoughts of strength and fortitude.

phyllis · April 12, 2019, 07:37:53 AM

Jackie, I am late getting in here and just now found out about Richard. I am so very sorry. I can only guess how lost you are feeling now and I know you cannot even think which way to turn. I am praying for you now and in days to come while you deal with this.

Joy · April 12, 2019, 08:17:43 AM

Good Morning.

It is a gray morning here, but supposed to be sunny later. Scattered showers are predicted for the whole weekend. My grand daughter is coming down from Connecticut this evening for the week end. I was hoping for a nice sunny week end, so we could do something fun with the children. So, will just have to play it by ear.

She had asked me if I thought I could find a place to get some steamed crabs, and I did. So, that is the only thing that is really been planned for Sat. evening. It will be 3 of my grandchildren, along with their children and my son to go. The crabs won't be our regular Maryland crabs, as it is still a little bit early for them. I think the ones we get in the winter are from Louisiana. We are all excited to just being able to be together for a while. I am so looking forward to seeing my latest great-granddaughter , who is just 2 months old. It will be a fun time, I am sure.

I woke up this morning still thinking about Jackie. I just can't imagine what she is going through being all alone.

Jackie, you ARE a Survivor. And, you will get through all this. I am sure your friends within the MS group will be supporting you. Reach out to them and they will be there for you, Just know that you have a lot of friends in this group here and we are all thinking of you. Just wish a lot of us could be there with you. You have been through a lot in the past few years and you have survived and you will survive this. Just try to keep STRONG !!!!

Sending good wishes for a nice day.

Joy

Mary Ann · April 12, 2019, 09:21:39 AM

I've been thinking a lot about you, Jackie. While you have a lot on your plate now, I am sure you will figure out what to do next, do it, and move on to the next step.

We are having lousy weather right now, however, it is 45 degrees so at least it isn't snow. Tom is teaching today until mid afternoon. He loves it and I am so sorry his education background can't earn him a teaching certificate. On the other hand, I am thankful for his open daily schedule that allows him to take me to appointments.

Joy, your tomorrow sounds like fun. I have never had fresh crabs or clams, especially from the coast and I know that is out now. I try to eat fish when I'm out and the more expensive the restaurant, the better the fish. Both Dot and I had fish sandwiches yesterday and I think the fish was tilapia.

Mary Ann

Sandy · April 12, 2019, 10:26:15 AM

Good Morning from the Rocky
Coast of Maine...

My condolences to you Jackie at the sudden
loss of your husband, Richard. It is
hard to imagine just what a shock this
must be to you...

Sandy

larryhanna · April 12, 2019, 10:50:16 AM

Hi Everyone. I also was very shocked at your news Jackie and did leave you my condolences in Christian Photographers. Just take things one minute at a time.

Yesterday was a beautiful day at the Master's Golf Tournament and it looks like today will also be a good day but mainly cloudy and warm with only a 20% chance of rain until 4 pm when there is a 40% chance. It is to be about 84 degrees this afternoon. We did enjoy our visit with our special friend yesterday but yesterday was not a good day for me and as soon as she left I headed to bed. Scott came out after she left and spent three hours visiting with his mother after a brief visit with me. I am happy to say I can at least hold my head up today, which I wasn't able to do yesterday except when sitting down. We plan on just having a very quiet couple of days to recover from a busy couple of days. She did bring us a Wifesaver's chicken dinner with coleslaw and green beans and a whole pecan pie. I am going to have to just check in this morning as am still very weary.

angelface555 · April 12, 2019, 12:10:59 PM

Good morning from a partly cloudy Interior where the highs and the lows are back in the fifties. We are expecting rain to some degree for this weekend and into the following week. Deprived of her birdwatching, all Ravens have left for the mountains and smaller birds have moved into trees, Farrah is counting on me to supply most of her entertainment.

Jackie, you are strong, it's very hard but you will survive this. So many here have gone through this themselves and are here for you.

Good morning to everyone who has posted and to those still to come.

Joan, here is a non-YouTube link for you, http://www.duluthharborcam.com/

Mary Ann · April 12, 2019, 01:05:18 PM

Patricia, it must have been windy in Duluth yesterday. I think the wind has reached here because my neighbor's trash container is not where they put it and the cover was off when last I saw it. I'll have to go back to see where things are now. I can't see our trash bag and I'm afraid to look for it.

Mary Ann

Marilyne · April 12, 2019, 02:07:32 PM

The wind is blowing here this morning as well. Very uncomfortable, to step outside on the deck, which faces North/East. I haven't looked at any of the cams yet today, but late last night I looked at the Duluth Canal cam, and was surprised to see that the water was frozen again. I'm sure it's probably starting to thaw again today. Lots of boats arriving and leaving over the weekend.

Jackie - I hope that we hear from you soon? We want to know how you are doing, and what is being planned for Richard in the way of a service of any kind? Will you have someone to help you make plans for that, as well as everything else? I hope that the initial shock is beginning to wear off, but of course, it will be a long time before you begin to feel better.

Mary Ann · April 12, 2019, 02:22:14 PM

Marilyn, I just looked at the Duluth and Two Harbors sites and it snowed there as well as the water freezing. There is snow on the ice. I have seen a couple ships go through the Soo but every time I look at the Duluth area, everything is going to go "tomorrow" and when I get there "tomorrow", some ships have already left or arrived and everything is being done "tomorrow". I can't win!

For those of you who do not live near the Soo, do you know the Sault name of both cities (Michigan and Ontario) is pronounced Soo?

I was going to watch some of the Masters but show time isn't until 3 pm. Who knows what I will be doing then!

Jackie, let us know how you are doing and what you are doing. I think it is nearly 8:30 pm in England now.

Mary Ann

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